Last week we had another big snowstorm – hopefully the last one of the year. I always find it interesting how we react to the way others act when the snow comes. We get frustrated when their reactions aren’t the same as ours. The day after the snow, my husband was out shoveling and scraping his way out so he could get to work. He is also from Massachusetts where in Boston they have gotten over 100 inches of snow this winter. So, our 10 inches of snow wasn’t a big deal to him. Other people I know still had not dug their way out and left their houses 2 days after the snowfall. For them, a foot of snow is a big deal and leaves them paralyzed. Those like my husband and I are left shaking our heads and don’t understand why they can’t just deal with it.
I think it all comes down to experience and learning to sympathize with others. People who have moved here from warmer weather states don’t have the same experiences as we do. Some of them may have never seen snow, much less having to shovel their way out of it. But instead, we expect them to suck it up and deal. How often do we do the same thing in other areas? We see people struggle with weaknesses or sin in their lives or who are just overwhelmed by the weight of their load. Instead of helping them and walking through it with them, we get frustrated and don’t understand why they can’t get their life together.
We turn our backs on those struggling with addictions instead of trying to understand what they are trying to cope with by using those things.
We label people as being weak instead of taking the time to learn about problems in their bodies that we can’t see.
Those are just two common ones …but you can fill a sentence with other situations that make you frustrated with others. We would rather talk about other people in judgment than talk to them and understand. It’s easier to shake our heads and turn the other way than it is to walk through the muck of life with them. All the while, forgetting how messy our lives were before someone was willing to get their feet dirty and walk with us.
My mom told me how their neighbor came over and shoveled all the snow out of their driveway and walkway last week. They didn’t ask the neighbor for help. Instead, he saw a need and did something about it. He cleared a path so they could get out. What needs do you see in the lives of those around you? Are you willing to get in the middle of the mess and help them walk through it?
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