The weather can be very unpredictable in Louisville. The changing of the seasons has a tendency to sneak up on you. One day you are wearing flip flops. The next day you step outside and your toes feel like they have icicles forming on them. It’s two weeks before Christmas and last weekend the temperature got up to 70 degrees! My husband was pretty excited since he hates the cold and tries to hide from it. You never know what to expect from one day to the next.
Grief is the same in a lot of ways. It is unpredictable. You don’t know what to expect each day or even each moment because it can sneak up on you. You never know what will trigger those memories and feelings of what you have lost. A photo shows up on Facebook. A smell takes you back to a time and place in the past. A loved one goes through something similar.
Many people think that grief is a process that once you go through the steps it ends and you go back to normal. However, that is a misconception. There is no “going back” to anything. The pain eases. The memories become sweet. You find your smile and laughter again. You find a new “normal”. Though they may come much less frequently, there will always be those moments of grief that sneak in just like an icy cold winter breeze. Eventually, you will find that it feels different when those moments come. They are no longer bitter. Instead of trying to hide from them, you bundle up and walk through it.